I am still learning to use this site. It’s cool but seems like a platform for established white people. But if I find just one person who enjoys being nasty with me on here, then I did a job well done.
Today my home page had an article titled “My First Time Having Group Sex was Incredible” by Sexography. I did not read it. No shade or whatever, I’ve just fucked in my fair share of group activities and don’t really care about someones first experience. I was just excited, I guess. Then I stumbled across the submission guidelines and immediately clenched my hole. No erotica, nothing too descriptive, nothing nasty, nothing with too much slang, nothing with nothing with nothing. This immediately turned me off. I don’t even have anything to submit, I’m just mad for no reason. But that aside, how dare they restrict the erotic down to what is digestible? Who does this actually cater to?
I want to go to cis-het-women, but I wont allow myself to narrow it down that far.
Some of the best sexual advice I have gotten were from people who would never stumble across a platform that is for people to write. But let’s say they did, and let’s say they wanted to participate in sexology’s content submission by writing something about anal in the workplace. They sure as hell better know how to write well and how to set up an article. Those are the other guidelines. No long texts with no paragraphs, no writing like it is a blog, no writing with a touch of hood — if you got it. Do we see the problem?
Our guidelines and limits restrict us from seeing those who do not know there aren't rules to play by. There is something just grotesque to me when I think of people being limited or even silenced when it comes to sex. Sex is so personal, like writing. Some of know how to write and don’t know how to fuck. I have had some rough (in a bad way) hookups with people who were so impressive academically. Do you think they could write about sex without fibbing out of their ass? Sex and writing are not the same, but in both skills you either have it or you don’t.
I learned to write at such an old age. I could not write my freshman year of college in 2014. I’m not even sure what helped me. I just wrote paper after paper and got C’s on all of them. I ended up taking a break from college and eventually graduated with a degree in Gender Studies. Then is when I began writing without the fear of doing it right. I wrote about sex, rape, colonization, race, and so much more. My passion became to see a day where women are equal and black people are acknowledged as oppressed.
But guidelines scare me for those groups when I see restrictions that are inevitable. How do we reach people who do not read for fun? Where do we contribute? Or is it just that we let people say what they have to say even if it doesn't make sense?
Heres the thing, I did not read shit from sexography. I don’t know what they post nor do I care. Why am I criticizing them so hard? Well, for one: they will never see this. And if they did, I am no one to tell them how to run their shit. I don’t know them and they don’t know me. Two: because my senses were offended by them and I wanted to write it out. Deal with it.
l8r bitch,
Vanilla
